Choosing Happiness over Loneliness

Signs that your relationship is either coming to an end or in trouble:

 1) Your significant other refuses to let you see their phone, or has their phone on lock down.

2) They never introduce you to any of their friends or family.

3) They refuse to accept you as "friends" on social networking sites such as Facebook.

4) They only invite you over for private sleep overs.

5) They avoid all terms of endearment or admitting they care about you above attraction.

6) They refuse to put a label on what you two have.

7) You never fight.

8) Oh and anytime they say in some way that your relationship has to be a secret. Run. 

I experienced all these and other signs from Boy in the final weeks. Don't get me wrong, Boy used to spoil me when it came to taking me out and before I ruined things by moving to Arizona due to THE EX, I think he really cared about me. He even flew out to AZ to see me for my birthday. Yet, when I moved back to CO, he had almost done a 180 to the emotionally unavailable guy that I had met when I was 19. He started playing games like saying he had plans or might have plans with his guy friends then later saying they fell through. I started not waiting around for him and started making plans with my friends when he'd "be busy." When he'd magically not have plans, he'd get upset that I wasn't willing to break mine to hang out with him. He also started referring to me as "the other woman." His jokes became so constant that I couldn't tell if they were jokes or veiled truth with sarcasm. He'd say things like, "Don't leave your stuff here or my girlfriend will find out." Then  he got a jeep because, "It was unmanly to pick up chicks with the bug." Or something like that.

  So, when Boy made a disappearing act after I had tried involving him with my family & friends. I gave up. I was 23, and although still young, had no time for game playing. This and so much more were reasons why I, on an August night, when I heard a knock on the door, invited Neighbor Boy in to my apartment. I remember that first night so vividly because it was a night that changed my life. I was putting away laundry and watching Gabriel Iglesias (by the way this is the most amazing comedian and you should watch him right now) on my lap top. He was perfectly content to watch it and wait for me to be done putting my laundry away. Then he asked me if I wanted to see a movie. That was when I made the decision, after not hearing from Boy for a week or so, to forget him. We went to the Movie Tavern but, the next movie didn't start for a while, so we decided to eat our meal first and have a drink. We then decided to play a first shooter in the arcade and I kicked booty. He was impressed. Honestly, I don't even remember what the movie was. Its not an important fact. It was an amazing first date even though at the time I didn't know that's where we were heading.

How could you say no?

Over the next few weeks, we went on other dates; such as, the Aquarium, Casa Bonita, a barbeque joint... etc. He would send me texts every day that said things like, "Roses are red, violets are blue, why are you such a sweet heart?" (I know he wasn't the rhymer but still cute). After one of our dates, he got down on his knees, and basically proposed to me (to date me). He said something along the lines of him taking care of me, treating me like the princess that I am, and that he'd try to never make a me cry (which is not avoidable if you're in real relationship). This moment was the moment that changed my life. The moment I chose happiness over loneliness. Honestly, I would go every painful moment in my life again as long as it brought me back to that moment.

Hawt couple!

 I think it was sometime in late August, early September, after my birthday, when Boy texted me explaining that his phone had broke or something to that effect. Here is my problem with this: he had a few other ways to contact me, if he so chose. We were friends on Gmail chat where we have talked before and he would be active on while at work. He had my email address. Oh and he had my friend request on facebook that he never approved (to this day). I call Bull SH**! I made up some excuse that I was babysitting and couldn't hang out. I mean, he didn't even say hi to me on my birthday. Neighbor Boy was determined to see/talk to me on my birthday and it had been less than a month of knowing eachother. (Yes, I'm one of those who love holidays.) I think Boy asked me out one more time that I didn't respond to. We haven't talked since. Not once. I thank God for the day I met Neighbor Boy.

Song of the day: "My girl's Ex boy-friend" by Relient K